Red Canoe: Love In Its Making

The Red Canoe: Love in Its Making is a memoir in poems that explores the anatomy of a marriage — underbelly and crown. A practicing psychologist and former marriage therapist herself, Handler unveils the multileveled role of parents, religion, children, illness and the emotional/psychological development of the two spouses on the frail and treacherous terrain that is marriage. Her gift and that of this book is that she manages a balance of perspectives; one identifies with the empathizes with both spouses. Paramount for them, as for all married couples, are their primitive, conflicting wishes to merge and to remain separate. Though poetry, Red Canoe reads like a novel. Handler manages the emotional highs and lows by manipulating words and groups of words — the page becomes canvas and letters and words are art objects that mute or intensify the feelings expressed. A must read for couples, Red Canoe is also a valuable clinical tool. A graceful blend of her experience and wisdom in two professions — poet and psychologist — Handler offers her readers the gift of her honesty, her unflinching commitment to tell the whole story and her trust in the power of hard work in the making of a love-filled and trusting marriage.

As the founder of CavanKerry Press, Joan Cusack Handler is a poet and memoirist, a psychologist in clinical practice, and a blogger for PsychologyToday.com (“Of Art and Science”). Her poems have been widely published and have received awards from The Boston Review and five Pushcart nominations. A Bronx native, she has four published books with CavanKerry –GlOrious (2003), The Red Canoe: Love In Its Making (2008), Confessions of Joan the Tall: A Memoir (2012), and Orphans (2016) – and currently resides in Brooklyn and the East Hamptons. Joan is married to a great man and fellow psychologist, has a loving son and daughter-in-law, and two amazing granddaughters.

TRIANGLE

Cleaning out closets, I find a plastic box marked

Ecstasy

Lingerie: Satisfies Your Desire To Be Different.

Inside

black fishnet bra & panties.

My mother-in-law gave these to me,

she pulled them out of a drawer               laughing,

“These will do you more good

than me.”

I am pleased. A mother’s permission, perhaps—

she always insists on the best

for her son.

But this is the set up,

the tease:       the place in the triangle

where the story switches:

I open the box,             take out

bra & panties,     examine them —

size 8:

bust 32, hip 34;

At my slimmest,      I’ve

never worn

less

than

14,

The Red Canoe is a work of tremendous metaphoric complexity and richness, in which a woman’s pain – braided into a troubled marriage, branded upon an injured body – ultimately finds relief in the transformative power of language. Joan Cusack Handler’s dual guises as therapist and poet merge as one in this healing book which, in the end, is an articulation of a keen intellect animated by heart and hope.
— Raphael Campo, M.D.

When I began to read The Red Canoe, the poems’ spatiality perplexed me. I wondered about the bizarre shapes and halts of the words and even the letters on the page. Slowly, the meaning of the spaces visited me. These poems invite their reader into private, hidden, unutterable spaces — the cul-de-sac behind the cervix, the gaps between adjoining vertebral bodies, the marriage bed. What courage it must take to see with this dramatic, piercing gaze. In acts not of anatomy but of vivisection, the blade of sight cuts through skin, fat, fascia, down to bone. Handler finds the most fundamental elements of that which is caught in her net — the cruelty of Catholics and Freudians in their superior and unforgiving sneers at their deepest selves, the remote but tender silence of the grey-eyed husband who can only steal looks at his wife, the possession so intense of the son that it can only be rendered in prose.
Love here exceeds its bound. Spilling over into body, food, sex, childhood, appetites, ideas, and pain, the poems achieve a brilliant fusion of the particular and the universal, the seen and the undergone, the body and the self. We are lustier, brawnier, better-fed beings for the prospects of Handler’s gifts.
— Rita Charon, M.D., Ph.D, Professor of Clinical Medicine, Director, Program in Narrative Medicine, College of Physicians and Surgeons of Columbia University

In The Red Canoe: Love in Its Making Joan Handler brings both honesty and balance to the intricate world that is a marriage. Her means are consistently inventive as her lines enact feelings and thoughts. Her focus is unremitting as she makes the reader feel how much pain and glory can go into two people trying to accept one another. This book is unmistakably poetry but has the feel of a novel – one wants to know what will happen to these people.
— Baron Wormser

November 2008
180 pp
Trade paper – 8.5 X 8.5
$16
978-1-933880-08-2